Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Jon and Kate Plus 8

Let me start by saying, I love this show. Love the kids, think the mom is amazing for keeping it all together, what have you. But last night's episode kinda irritated me.

They did an episode about "life before the show" Basically told the story about how Jon and Kate met, how they got pregnant, etc. Although the part was short, they were open enough to share their "infertility story"

So here is their story, as presented, in summary:

1. Kate was diagnosed with PCOS
2. Started TTC in June
3. Went to a fertility doctor the following December (6 months later)
4. Did IUI the following month and they were pregnant by the end of February with the twins.

After Kate presented the story, she said "After all of our hard work, we finally had the most wanted babies ever"

I must be pretty PMS-y, because it irritated me. So you tried for 6 months and on your first IUI got pg? Tell me where the hard work is? There are woman out there who try for years, go through countless IUI's, numerous IVF' s and oftentimes are left without a baby. THOSE woman have had hard work.

Maybe there is part of the story they didnt share but the whole thing just struck me as obnxious. Dont get me wrong, I watched the rest of the episode and drooled over the cuteness that is the Gosselin children, but that part just got to me.

14 comments:

Ro said...

I hear ya, Shan. 6 months? Sheesh.

You know what, though? Our journeys will be worth it, you'll see. Our babies are coming.

((hugs)) from Wed

Kathryn said...

Okay, here I am. : )

I really just wanted to thank you for being such a great resource and friend to the GPers.

I watch everyone posting about your chart, and anticipating your BFP, and I understand that it's because everyone wants it so badly for you.

I'm just concerned that it puts that much more pressure on you every month. Anyway, I guess I'm not really sure what my point is, but hope that all the "positive thoughts" flying your way on the board don't freak you out.

I know last week was hard for me with everyone being excited about the girls testing on Father's Day, and that was just one cycle! I can't imagine going through that every 2ww.
: )

I'm at katdavisfl at gmail dot com.

Fingers crossed for you!

rls07 said...

This is definitely irritating to me as well. Even though I am still on cycle 1.

But your time is coming and all the time will definitely be worth it.

Molly said...

I absolutely "hear ya" on this one, but I also think it depends on what people are aware of. If I had never jumped on NestBaby or ventured over to TTTC early in my Nesting, I would have had no perspective on the situation.

To Kate it was a lot of hard work, but that's probably because she isn't aware of the struggles of others. (I could be totally wrong here, but at least it's a different way to view the situation.)

Anonymous said...

What you have to understand is that to her, it was a lot of work. To her, they were the most wanted babies ever. To her, I'm sure those were a very difficult six months. Just because your situation seems more difficult to you, doesn't mean it wasn't any less difficult to her.

hopefaithlove said...

Jon and Kate are from our area, Jon played soccer with my DH. There is more to the story then she shared and I go to the same RE's office as she did and theya re pretty fast over there. Here I am in my 8th cycle and they started testing me at the 5th cycle b/c I have preexsisting condition, which she had also.

I do understand that everyone journey is different and even thought I have not been trying as long as you, it is frustrating to hear people say that, I mostly hate when people say they are upset after 1 or 3 cycles.

Am I making any sense?

BTW: I am not testing on Staurday anymore, I had to get another HCG shot today b/c my levels were too low, and now my cycle will be delayed another 5 days.

Sorry we can not test together anymore.

I ahve my fingers crossed for you

Shannon said...

Good comments on my blog topic, I appreciate them. I guess I wasnt even thinking of me when writing it though. Really, 12 months is long but its not that long in the grand scheme of the TTC world. I was thinking of the women who go through years and years of treatment, fail at IVF, etc. It makes me sad for them

Shannon said...

Hey Shannon!
I know what you mean. I felt a little upset too(PMS also! but hopefully yours isnt PMS). But just remember when you were only trying a month or two and you thought it was forever? I'm sure that to Kate 6 months plus 1 IUI felt like a lifetime to her. But I agree some ppl try for years, and I guess I just thought her process was a lot longer as well.
I heart you, and lots of hugs!

Anonymous said...

I think there is a lot more to it than they are telling. you know, if you put your self out there, there has to be some sort of censorship - they may not want the whole world to know EVERYTHING. I get the idea that it was more than she led on, and besides PCOS can be really difficult. Maybe she got lucky on that, but you can't say it was not emotional for her - because I am sure it was. Been trying for 3 yrs myself now and onto yet another round of IVF.

Shannon said...

I never said it wasnt emotional for her. Im sure that it was. TTC for 1 month or 10 years is emotional.

Its ok if they dont want the whole world to know everything. I understand that. But since they are on a show and they are broadcasting their lives for us to see, they become the "voice" for issues in their lives. One of their issues is IF. And as a result, they are the voice for IF, whether they want to be or not.

I would never say that it was not emotional for her, I cant fathom the emotion that she felt. But it did make me feel like she trivialized the struggles that other woman have had. I get that 6 months is a long time for some people but for most, its not. Some people dont even get pregnant on their own in 6 months.

I wish you good luck in your round of IVF, I hope its a success for you.

Stephanie said...

Yeah, I felt that way too. 6 months and 1 IUI isn't so much hard work.

Princess Impatience said...

I would say they probably tried for a while before she was diagnosed with PCOS. I mean, who walks into an RE's office and says, "I'm just about to start TTC but would like to see if I have PCOS first. I do? OK great let's do an IUI!"

Just a thought, love.

-Toph

Ashley said...

I WATCHED THAT ONE TOO!! AND YES I DO LOVE THE SHOW, AND I LOVE KATE. BUT I THOUGHT THE SAME THING WHEN SHE WAS SAYING IT. SHE GOT PREGNANT WITH THE SIX SHORTLY AFTER SHE TRIED TOO. (I CANT REMEMBER HOW LONG THOUGH)!! SORRY BUT A FEW MONTHS OF TRYING IS NOT INFERTILITY TO ME!! THAT MAY BE BLOUNT BUT THATS HOW I FEEL!!

april said...

"SORRY BUT A FEW MONTHS OF TRYING IS NOT INFERTILITY TO ME!! "

I could not possibly agree more!! I HATE.hate.HATE when people on the boards I frequent talk about "we had to try three months in a row". WAH! When you've tried for 6 (going on 7) years and have been jerked around by Dr's, let's talk. Until then, enjoy your blessing and shut your damn mouth!

Sorry, I'm a little passionate on this one. You dont even want to get me started on J&K+8. Kate's a bitch!